When a child faces difficulties that create strong emotions in them, they tend to release those emotions, including anger, frustration, and their inner chaos onto the one person who is always there and will never leave.
This explains why a child may be kind to the outside world but not to his or her parents. For the parents, this feels unfair and unhealthy, and although it indeed is, this behavior often reflects the child’s inner struggles, not their mother’s value.
4. When a mother disappears behind her role
Out of love for their children, some mothers limit their role to the one of caregiver and provider. This prevents them from expressing their own desires, and their boundaries are not defined.
Because of that, children tend to believe that their mothers don’t have needs on their own and when self-respect isn’t something they see at their mothers, it’s difficult for them to learn it themselves.
This isn’t about judgement, but it’s important that mothers are aware that self-presence provides lessons as powerfully as sacrifice.
5. The burden of an unpayable emotional debt
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